Greet your husband at the door.

Picture this....

You have had a LONG day. The kids have been on a whole other level, the house is a mess, and you're overstimulated and tapped out. Maybe the baby is crying while you're trying to stir dinner, and your toddler is having a melt down on the floor by your feet.

Like the knight in shining armor he is, your husband walks in the door and your immediate reaction is to drop the baby in his arms, spout some words of frustration and walk away.

Can you imagine being greeted in that way on a regular basis?

Phew, I know I would not enjoy it, and here's the thing.......

I've done it to my husband. I chose to not deny myself and instead put my own needs above his. Until we reached a breaking point and I recognized how much it was impacting our marriage.

I get it, moms, having your husband walk through the door at the end of a long hard day is like finding water in the desert. It is so tempting rush over and dump it all onto him. But he may have also had a hard day and was excited to come home to his family, only to be greeted with chaos, negativity, anger and resentment.

This isn't to say that I don't get a break, or I don't talk to my husband about how hard of a day it was. I have just switched to not doing it within the first 3 seconds of him walking in the door. And when I do talk to him, it's from a place of love and not frustration.

A change like this was very intentional and required consistency in order to work. It's something that I still struggle with and sometimes fail at.

In my intentionality, I try to greet him right when he walks in the door by dropping whatever I'm doing, walking up to him and giving him affection. I'll ask how his day was, get a plate of dinner ready for him, and just overall approach him with love and gentleness....no matter how my day was.

I want our home to be a place that my husband looks forward to coming back to at the end of the day. A place of calmness, peace and love. As I've learned, it won't be like that if I bombard him the second he walks in the door by unloading all my garbage on him.

I've noticed a huge difference in our marriage since I consistently started doing this. Of course, this isn't all it takes to have a healthy, thriving marriage. But it's a small adjustment that you, as the wife, can make in pursuit of a healthy marriage.

So, if this is a struggle of yours like it was for me, I encourage you to start today and greet your husband at the door!

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"The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does hum good, and not harm, all the days of her life."

Proverbs 31: 11-12